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To avoid violence and keep society civil, government is to be a referee. Folks coming to play in the game of life, playing by the same rules. Our government is supposed to be the independent referees who call the game. Our laws are the rules of the game.
We have our representatives to create the rules and to speak for us the ensure the rules are evenly applied to all.
We have a single leader, the president, who is suppose to make sure the system of government runs smoothly and according to the rules, the CEO of the organization so to speak. And if needs be over see the strong arm (Army) and protect us.
We can appeal when we think we the rules have been applied unfairly (the courts).
How long do we, as a nation, as a people, continue to allow a minority, any minority, a subset, by the very definition a deviation from the norm, of folks play by different rules? Allow them just because they are loud determine the direction of our nation, our values, our social interaction, our family values?
No one is really normal. We all have our specific differences and preferences. None the less when individuals and groups of people come together to form communities, organizations or even nations there are necessarily guidelines agreed upon by all upon which we govern behavior.
It does not matter if subsets of our society have inbred differences of which they have no control, it does not matter if those deviations are choices, it matters not the intentions. What matter is the actions and behaviors. When those actions occur, then the powers (the referees) that be must determine the import of intention, action and results then make a ruling based upon just rules that apply to all evenly.
When these systems no longer function even handedly, but are allow bias and preference for whatever reason, there is no longer recourse except force.
Social Network Frustrations
The frustration of returning from being out of town for several days to find I was “down” as far as the internet goes, reminded me of just how much I now depend upon the internet for daily work and connection.
My modem died, no my router died, no my connection was some how compromised………None the less……it required me to call internet support. We will not go through just how long and drawn out, the multiple calls to different Help Centers”.
Had to buy a new one. Then the calls started again to get it working right.
I was out of my element. I could not for the life of me understand, even though we were using the same words talking about the same thing.
Our Aspergers kids are like that. We talk, they talk, or at least seem to listen and answer, but They just don’t “get it”.
Finally I spoke to “Kevin the tech guy, from Texas”, he and I could communicate! He talked me through what no one else could do! and amazingly I am on line and blogging again!!!
Did he say anything different? I don’t really think so. We just connected.
THAT IS THE ONLY WAY TO REACH OUR ASPERGER KIDS!!!
FIND THOSE WITH THE GIFT OR ABILITY TO COMMUNICATE WITH THEM. Then they will learn and build the skills to communicate and interact with others.
Thank the Lord, that we at Second Start have just such a staff!
Self Control
I read long ago that the greatest battle any one has is within themselves. Having the desire to do (or not to do) something but unable to exercise the self discpline to force thier own will over thier own lives(bodies).
The many support groups, the endless diet commercials and the jails are full of evidence this is true.
Now move that issue from a moral or ethical deliema to a physical one and we will begin to understand a bit of how our Asperger Children feel every minute of every day.
Assessments
A high risk child is any child who is experiencing social, academic, emotional, medical, language, perceptual, or environmental turmoil that prevents him/her from performing up to his/her ability in school. As a result of this intense turmoil, many symptoms are generated in a dynamic attempt to alleviate the anxiety or feelings of inadequacy. This part of the Assessment in Special Education Series looks at the symptoms exhibited by high risk children and provides a frame of reference so that these children can be identified as quickly as possible.
The determination of who will receive a comprehensive assessment for a suspected disability is a process that normally begins with the local school. In most states, each school will have a committee called the Child Study Team (Pupil Personnel Team, School Based Support Team etc.) which reviews children who are considered high risk. High-risk children may exhibit many different behavior patterns. Some of the more common ones that can be exhibited by either elementary or secondary students while in school are:
• A history of adequate or high first quarter grades followed by a downward trend leading to failures in the final quarter.
• A history of excessive absences.
• A history of excessive lateness.
• Frequently cannot separate from parent at the start of the school day. While this can be normal behavior in very young children, it becomes a more serious symptom after age 6 or 7.
• High achievement scores and high school abilities index with a history of low academic performance.
• Consistent failure in two or more quarters of at least two subjects.
• A history of parent “coverage” for inappropriate behavior, poor work performance, poor attitude, failures, or absences.
• Students wandering the halls after school with no direction or purpose.
• A history of constant projection onto others as a reason for a lack of performance, handing in work, failures, or cutting.
• A history of feeling powerless in the student’s approach to problems.
• Recent stress related experiences i.e. divorce, separation, death of a parent or parent’s loss of employment.
• A history of constant visits to the nurse.
• Social withdrawal from peers with an emphasis on developing relationships with adult
Integrity
Was in a meeting today of which is typical of business meetings these days, a person starting his own company wants to do business with us. This is a person we have done business in the past albeit within a different context.
They still owe us several thousands of dollars. After their presentation, I ask them when we could expect payment of the monies owed. Instead of answering the question they simply denied knowing of the debt and asked for written proof of the debt. (I wrote to this person a few weeks ago, reminding them of the needed payment) There is no question of the debt they simply are looking for a way to avoid payment.
No Integrity. Not an issue of legalities, an issue of integrity. I think we will not be doing business any further with this person.
This goes to yesterday’s “blog”. For there to be knowledge and wisdom one must have ethics and morals by which to live. To be truly educated there must be a rock solid foundation. I fear for the children in our Government run education systems for they have for years left out the very foundation for learning.
Education
The foundation of any solid education is the ability to think critically. Being able to gather facts and information and then to arrive at solid reasonable conclusions. To that end basic subjects have to be taught to be able to gather information: Math, English (including Literature), History are essential.
To arrive at solid reasonable conclusions a foundation of values must be taught.
ONE CAN HAVE THE SCALES TO WEIGH INFORMATION BUT IF THERE IS NO COUNTER BALANCE OR STANDARD THEN THE INFORMATION IS AT BEST IS ONLY WEIGHED AGAINST ITSELF FOR A CIRCLE ARGUEMENT AND NO ADVANCE OF GENIUNE KNOWLEDGE.
So then it comes down to whose values will be taught?
This brings to mind a conversation I had with the late Senator Mark Hatfield of Oregon when I ask him if he supported prayers in school, he said; “no, but not because I don’t believe in prayer, I do, but because I don’t have time to write all the prayers for the schools and I don’t trust anyone else to….”
Power of the Individual
The power of the individual should never be underestimated! History turns on the influence, thoughts and actions of unique individuals. For good or for bad history is replete with examples.
As often as not it is the person who is different from the others, the one who may be a bit odd, or the one who “marches to the sound of a different drummer” who has world changing impact.
Examples: Issac Newton, Thomas Edison, Albert Einstein.
If you look at each great turn in history for good there is the individual who has the strength of character and commitment to their vision that eventually after much to do about their difference are followed.
It is the Asperger’s community which may have the next best “world changer” in their midst. It is my hope and prayer that we may recognize and encourage those brave souls to follow their hearts and minds while we help them understand how best to navigate society even as we encourage their passions.
Aspy Kids
As the new school year begins I wonder how many kids continue to suffer in the Government Schools with their one size fits all, “don’t make waves, we are the experts so we know what is best for your kids” mind set!
If ever there were a group of folks that recognize the value of the individual and the importance of each child receiving the taylored education as individuals it is those in the ASPY community!
Happy to be here!
In the course of human events, there comes a time when we must speak out.
Now is that time.
Now is the opportunity for us to speak plainly and clearly on behalf of those who cannot help themselves.
It is not for the government to speak out on our behalf.
It is not for the schools and those government systems to speak on our behalf.
We, as those who are parents of and workers with and for Aspy kids need to speak out and demand the law be enforced for our kids!
No longer accept the left overs that most school districts provide for our kids.
Stand for all at the law provides for our kids.
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